For the things I love 😍

Life is busy, oh yes life is so. Some days seem to be shorter, others longer. But reality stays that it is 24hrs a day, 168hrs a week and 8760hrs a year, oh yeah.

The interesting bit about life is that we can schedule certain things to make it better, interesting and more satisfying. One of the things I value, on a personal level is ME-TIME. I love time to and for myself.

I’ve come to appreciate that having this time for myself is a necessity. I’m not being selfish or just wasting time, I’m thinking about me and FYI, I’m the most important person in my life 😂. You get it right.

Me time moments calm me down, I can do a thing or two in there, like self-care, eating out, taking a nap, shopping name it and I keep my activities as positive as they can be. This gives me better space and strength over time.

So as the new week starts, do you have some ME time!?
Remember, we find space for what we treasure, we make space for what we want, we choose our priorities.

The Power Of Habits

Habits are the choices that all of us deliberately make at some point, and then stop thinking about but continue doing often every day. Habits emerge because the brain is constantly looking for ways to serve an effort. In our brain is a cue, a trigger that tells your brain to go into automatic mode and which habit to use. Secondly, there is the routine, which can be physical, mental or emotional. Finally is a reward, which helps your brain figure out if the habit loop of choice is worth remembering for the future. So the brain is a three-step habit loop i.e. Cue – Routine – Reward. Overtime, this loop becomes more and more automatic. The cue and reward become intertwined until a powerful sense of anticipation and craving emerges and eventually, a habit is born. We have the power to force bad tendencies into the back yard of our brains. For example if someone develops a healthier eating pattern, ignoring hot junk food becomes automatic as any other habit.

Habits, as much as memory and reason, are the root of how we behave. We might not remember the experiences that create our habits, but once they are lodged within our brains, they influence how we act, often without our realization. Many times habits emerge without permission, for example, a once in a month pattern of eating fast foods can become once in a week, and then twice a week until you start consuming unhealthy amounts of these foods.

New habits are created through cravings. For example, once people crave for a cool tingling and sensation in particular toothpaste, brushing becomes a habit. Craving is what drives habits and figuring out how to spark a craving makes creating a new habit easier.
To change an old habit you must address an old craving, by inserting a new routine. Alcoholics crave a drink because it offers escape, relaxation, companionship, the blunting of anxieties, and an opportunity for emotional release. Belief is the ingredient that can make these alcoholics and make them cope with the stress without alcohol. “If it worked for that guy, I guess it can work for me”. There is something powerful about groups and shared experiences. A community creates belief and can be only as large as two people.

Some habits have the power to start a chain reaction, changing other habits as they move through an organization. These are Keystone Habits, and they can influence how people work, eat, play, live, spend, and communicate. They start a process that, over time, transforms everything. For instance families who habitually eat dinner together seem to raise children with better homework skills, higher grades, greater motional skills, and more confidence. Keystone habits help other habits to flourish by creating new structures, and they establish cultures where change becomes contagious.
A habit of routines reduces uncertainty especially at work places where they allow workers to experiment with new ideas without having to ask for permission at every step. They provide some kind of organizational memory.

Once you understand that habits can change, you have the freedom – and the responsibility – to remake them. If you believe you can change – if you make it a habit – the change becomes real. This is the real power of habit: the insight that your habit is what you choose them to be. Once that choice occurs – and becomes automatic – it´s not only real, it starts to seem inevitable.
What you need is a plan. A habit is a formula our brain automatically follows: when I see CUE, I will do ROUTINE in order to get REWARD.

Just Because I Love Music

For all those moments I felt low, music opposed gravity. For all the times I felt no one was speaking to me, music spoke and I heard. Music is one language that if we’ll chosen, communication is effective.

I really applaud people who write good music. Music is my language. I find myself humming and humming about a song even though I don’t know it’s lyrics yet or singing at the top of my voice. I think and know that I have loved music for the biggest stretch of my age (I have aged,, haha). I remember in high school, I had a pile of books with written songs, cutting across many genres say RnB, hip-hop, Gospel l, Ragga, Kadongokamu name it. I was even nicknamed DJ in high school and this name was more familiar than my real name.

Some of these genres fitted in well for matters of love, spiritual connection, dance and groove and ehhh kandongokamu is another one. An artiste could sing a 13minutes long song, this was a one educative genre. And some of these old songs are as far away as a slap on my temple.

Many times, when am happy or whatever mood, there is a song that fits in the moment. I can sing myself away through a moment. And for the love of music, I somehow get the lyrics faster than the speed of light.

Music is just therapy to me. Music gives me a good system and environment at the same time. I can sing and sing until I can sing some more. And when I listen to a really good song, it gives me goosebumps even, cheeiii. However, many a times, am my own artiste and audience.

For the love of the things that I love, I chose to write about music today.

An Encounter With God

During the course of the day today, I had time to watch TV as many people were eulogizing a fallen Ugandan musician (R.I.P), one thing stuck out for me through it all.

For a couple of people who were friends and family to the late said that, “for a long time, the deceased didn’t want anything to do with God, he didn’t believe in Him nor His existence.” And for a big journey of his life, he was living in disbelief.

And one day, the late in company of another artiste drives up to a friend’s house and just as they comfort themselves (the trio) down, the deceased starts like, “Do you know that God is very good, very great and very very powerful? Look at what He has done for us, what He has given us, He is so powerful, I didn’t know. He has given us life, money, cars, children, name it. We have it all because of God. ” This was all expressed in all Luganda before his two colleagues. He added that “banange Katonda munene nyo, nyo, nyo (meaning that The Lord is enormously big/huge.”

In addition, he is said “Katonda wamanyi nyooooooo…, wa taabu (meaning God is very strong and mighty) to an extent that if you meet God, you might even die.”

This left the friends in utter shock because they knew him as a person on the other side of the spiritual matters. They were really left speechless for a couple of minutes and all they could do was stare at him, wondering what a sudden change in him. The conversation lasted from as early as 9am to 2am at the friend’s place. A friend confirms that the deceased went on to read the whole Bible yearning to know more about this Mighty God. This was later confirmed by other people who had sensed a change in him. One even said that, “if you missed the late talking about God, you really missed a lot.”

As the conversation deepened, he came up with a decision to write an album with songs talking about the Greatness of God, and before his demise, he had written and outed a couple of them and I confirm that I have listened to two of them and they are just touching.

Why write all this, as the late’s friend was eulogizing, one thing sounded clear in my head, “THE LATE HAD AN ENCOUNTER WITH GOD.” I connected all this to the message in the word of God preached last weekend. The underlying fact was and still is that “an encounter with God is a game changer. ” And that’s why the deceased seemed different from the usual. An encounter could be a dream, vision, revelation, name it. I personally feel it within me that he had an encounter with God.

I reflected on Acts 16:10 and 1Cor 1:18-20 and I believe there are very many scriptures talking about a Godly encounter.

You are good writer

I chose to have such a title for a reason. Dating back a couple months ago, I was attending a Mentoring program with other mentees and whilst there, we were supposed to read books and have a related assignment. You either could come up with your title or the mentor gave it to you and the assignment was to write an article, usually not more than 500words. I remember we even had to write letters to our future selves…. (Dear 2067).

Down the road, our mentor sends me an email that read, “Prossy, your articles are beautifully written. Keep up the good work.” I smiled ear to ear that evening. I was pleased with myself too. We eventually graduated from the program.

A few months down, am on this platform where we do daily reading of The Word and then you note down what you have gotten from the reading, snap it and post and then you share ideas with the rest. And after a number of posts, one of the initiators (church pastor)of this way to spiritual growth, writes a message and says, “Prossy, you write so well.” This took me through a 360degree spin. This rhymed with a statement that says, “A matter shall be established by two or more witnesses.” On top of it all, I had a thumbs up from my English teacher in O’level for writing good passage summaries.

So, I sat down and gave it some thought and I told myself, “Prossy, this skill is nine months ready, take a step to write.” And here I am. Just because, someone affirmed that am a good writer, the journey has started.

May God guide my hands…….AMEN!!!!